Mar 05 2009
Your opinion of victory by death?
The other night we handled a fairly interesting call…I guess “interesting” would be code for icky. One of our officers went to an address to do a “check-well-being”. A few nights before that, they had responded there for a domestic violence between a broken up couple. This resulted in the female getting a restraining order against the male. Our officer was doing routine patrol and drove by to check on the house and noticed that the male party’s car was at the female’s house. The officer called for extra police back-up and when they arrived, they knocked on the door. When the female looked out the window she didn’t see any officers and only saw the male’s car so she called 911 and we took the call from her as a restraining order violation. She thought her ex was banging on her door and refused to open it. When we advised her that it was officers at the door, she let them in to search the house. Officers found the male hanging in the shed….very dead.
Now, as terrible as this is for the female half, I was fairly relieved that officers had gone out there because they found him instead of her or her children finding him.
On a side note, I happened to over-hear some strangers jokingly mentioned that the male had gotten the last word in that fight. It was as if he told her, “yah, give me a restraining order? Take this!” So, even though I am sure there are plenty of disgusted people out there who are wondering how I could bring something so weird up after a death…. it sparked the turning of my gears. I am curious how many of you think that a suicide constitutes as getting the last word. I will mention that I don’t think suicide, no matter if you “won” the fight or not, is ever worth that! No fight is worth dying over and in my opinion, you lost anyways because you are….. well, dead!
So, please share your insights with me, I would love to hear what you think about this.
Not a smart way to win an argument if you ask me. But I think you are right - far better for it to go the way it did than for her or, God forbid, the children to find such a horrific sight. Maybe I’m wired differently, but I just can’t imagine the scenario that could make me feel like the right answer was to end it all. Just doesn’t make sense to me.
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this is very sad. Last word or not, i agree this is not the way to handle a fight. he must have really hated himself but her too to make her face this horrific sight! what a creep. now for the rest of her life she has to deal with this, even though thankfully she didn’t find him.
side note: i enjoy your postings, very real and full of raw human emotions regarding the craziness that make up the world around us! most of which is proof that people just don’t think about their actions or consequences of their choices. God bless all of you in your field!